I sit on this election night, overcome with sadness, pondering my future. Lacking imagination, I once again headed to the beach, with my lawn chair, the stars and surf, and cinnamon tequila. I am thinking the day is coming that I will leave my country, and by that I mean my country has left me. … Continue reading Election Night Sadness
Author: Duncan Kovar
What’s in a Name?
I'm starting a new chapter in my life, thinking about fundamental changes in what I want, what I value, what I wear, how I relax, where I live, what I do, who I am. So its logical that my mind wandered to my name: Dave There's a funny thing about traveling by yourself across the … Continue reading What’s in a Name?
The Tiny, Tiny House
There is dancing, and there is parenting, and when a father and adult son find themselves living under one roof, it becomes a daily transition between those two. During the divorce, there was a thought the three of us would go our three separate ways. But common sense dictated my son stay and finish college … Continue reading The Tiny, Tiny House
You Need to Go See
I enjoyed myself, time after time, across the 22 weeks of my trip. I've come to think this trick played a major role. Whenever anybody said “You need to eat at ...” or “You need to go see ..” a certain thing, I would. I would make every effort, if I had the time and … Continue reading You Need to Go See
Trust is an Aphrodesiac
I started ballroom dance lessons for poise, aerobic exercise, and gross motor skills. After three or four months, as I gained confidence, I was shocked that I was picking up an entirely different vibe. Something spiritual, something visceral, primordial. Something unexplainable. I spent my summer talking to people, listening to their stories, especially people that … Continue reading Trust is an Aphrodesiac
Setting Off Gaydar .
Through AirBnB, I have made a friend in Orlando. He is unable to drive so he rides a bike or takes buses everywhere. When I spend the night, I try to help him run difficult errands or enjoy a dinner out someplace he doesn't normally get to go. Like every one of my AirBnB hosts, … Continue reading Setting Off Gaydar .
My Upside Down Instincts .
I'm amazed by the law of opposites. Everyone knows the adage "If you want something done, ask a busy person" and "Good fences make good neighbors". The prophet Muhammad, pbuh, has an apocryphal story of him traveling every day on the same path. A neighbor would throw garbage in his path (or upon his head, … Continue reading My Upside Down Instincts .
Passing through the door …
Last night was a time of a sad transition for me personally. I spent it in quiet contemplation and mourning. Nothing to celebrate, like a funeral. No ball to spike, no endzone; and nobody to hold. I slipped off to the beach, long after dark. I emptied out a water bottle and refilled it half … Continue reading Passing through the door …
Solving the Puzzle 1.0, Caring
I've proposed the puzzle of pursuing an independent woman, a woman that doesn't need a man. Now, with no earthly experience to draw upon, and nothing more than common sense to guide me, I will propose my first attempted solution. After decades of counseling, marriage counseling, productivity and team building seminars we all know that … Continue reading Solving the Puzzle 1.0, Caring
An Impossible Puzzle
This summer has been an exercise in thought and discovery. Hour and hours (and hours and hours) alone in my head, riding on 2-lane highways, listening to Barry White croon “I'm not braggin' on myself baby”. Thinking about my past and my future; my goals and my accomplishments; my joys and my sorrows. Thinking about … Continue reading An Impossible Puzzle